Motherhood a Blessing

Every girl has the quality of care, love, compassion from childhood. The feminine gender is always caring and protective in each form of relationship, be A mother, A wife or A sister since tender age.That's why A girl is A powerhouse of strength, but A mother is always the most praiseworthy because of her selfless love , dedication ,absorption and never give up attitude. Motherhood is A wonderful journey, I truly admire every mother’s journey. Today I Asima Chand, mother of two beautiful daughters Dia and Disa, an architect by profession is sharing my bit of journey with you all.

20th October 2004 when festivity of Maa Durga was on peak, when the Prana Pratishtha of goddess began, the same time my eternal strength evolved in the form of Dia, my strength, my new life. I suddenly felt blessed the whole world was celebrating that moment, it brought tears in my eyes. Till today it gives me goose bumps. I was damn tired after 12 hrs. Of labour pain and screams but when Dr P.C Mohapatra held her with her face down, told here comes MISS INDIA 2024 ,alas! What a moment that was. I opened my eyes and saw my Dia’s snow white face with rosy lips .My fear for a smooth delivery got over and the real journey started. A non expressive shy girl became mother and found her own ways to up bring her little fairy alone. On her 7th month completion got a good opportunity to join another job, but this time I could not be ambitious and thought to devote my whole time to her after all house hold chores. Same time I realised Dia has completed 8 months still she is not crawling, like every mother I was also worried. One day she suddenly stood up and walked by holding sofa and that day was a memorable one for me. Yes we mom and daughter did party with other cute

friends and their beautiful moms after all papas went to office. Dia was super happy that day.

Strength of my life .."DIA"

There are many such moments I lived with my princesses. Dia is very expressive since childhood, if she doesn't like anything she will definitely express it with any means. When she was 2 years old and able to communicate clearly ,I got a new job offer ,was in a dilemma ,but didn’t stop this time. Thought my child will grow fast ,communicate , learn too, and it happened ,she became a very matured girl and I became a super mom. Got feedback that a babysitter will not take proper care of my Dia ,but I was not afraid of anything. My morning started before sunrise ,after doing my freelancing work, house hold works, I gave breakfast and shower to Dia. Then she was staying with the babysitter. During my lunch break , I was running home to give her lunch this phase of my journey was not easy without an understanding and caring father too.

Many obstacles were on my way ,but i overcame with more power ,strength ,patience and positive energy ,motherhood taught me. How to stay hydrated, illuminated due to my Dia

"DISA"..Direction of my life

We never planned for a second child, as wanted to devote my full time to Dia , after office. One day god listened to my little Dia’s prayer and it was positive, with a mixed feeling I accepted mentally, but due to some issues doctor advised me to terminate .It was my mental power, did not listen anyone. My inner soul, my conscienceness, my motherhood gave the positive signal of getting another beautiful child.I have really worked hard through out my pregnancy. 

Today also when I looked back can not believe how I managed everything so easily .Definitely it was never difficult with a supportive husband.Time passed smoothly, did not take a single leave till the date of delivery.I took proper care of my health.Krishna Dia’s babysitter showered me with her motherly love and care through out my second pregnancy. She is no more in this world but always be in my soul .

Celebration of life

Finally on 16th November 2008 after my office ,planned to visit doctor for regular checkup doctor Geeta asked not to move from hospital and get admitted as soon as possible. 

Today also I laugh by remembering my innocence of asking her for having chart before admitting in hospital but my wish was unfulfilled. Krishna and Dia were at home, first time i felt guilty of leaving Dia at home without her parents but krishna was never less than a caring aunt to her. Doctor Geeta waited till 1am, but I was not getting any labor pain.Finally she left hospital by instructing sisters to inform her as soon as I get pain. Disa as always very understanding child did not bother doctor at midnight .Early morning 5 am I got pain and after 10/15 mins of pain she was on her father’s hand.I thanked god for such a gem of person sister Ruby.She made smooth delivery and made all of us happy. My wish for having two girls finally fulfilled and we became a happy family.

Rhythm of life

My girls are my strength Durga and my wealth Laxmi.I have always realised its never a difficult journey, we can up bring our children in a nicer way with our professional life too. Children learn to manage many things with good mental development .A never ending journey till our death and beyond too in our children’s memory. I always feel fortunate as Dia, Disa are in my life. When they say mama you are a power house, i feel more energised, when they say I am stylish, beautiful, ha ha I feel much younger. When they say mama how you manage everything smoothly, i say don’t do buttering, I still know the time you both wasted in my absence. They laugh and say mama you are never easy to handle despite of a loving and caring heart, you are innocently stubborn to do your work

Our Singing Stars

Dia Disa are singing stars of our life. I record their voices and listen many times to motivate myself, to reunite my heart and soul. 

When my friends, relatives appreciate me due to them I feel my birth is complete in every sense. I will always pray near god to be your mother in my every birth. Love you Dia Disa.

Asima Chand (Beautiful Mom of two lovely angels)

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How to choose your kid’s first School – 5 important Tips

 It brings in a lot jitters to a first parent of a toddler to look out for a school for his/her kid. Frankly, it won’t be a cake walk or hassle free. But with proper planning it can be sorted.

It will be undoubtedly your life’s second important decision you will make as parent, apart from deciding to have the kid in the first place.

Right research, right planning and right decision and you could put them on a path toward lifelong learning, a reputed school, later a prestigious college education, leading to a successful career ahead.

Before selecting a good first school, few important aspects you must to look onto:

1.      Your child needs:  Never over expect or compare your kid with other kids of same age. Every child is different and special in their own way. Their physical and behavioral equation varies from each other. They have their certain emotional needs, which as a parent you got to check and figure out and act accordingly.

 Your Ground Work: Proactively try to get answers by questioning self, keeping yours kid in mind:

 

·         Does your child need more individual attention?

·         Does your child like to learn in groups or like to learn or work alone?

·         How your children prefer learning? Does your child learn by seeing how things work on or they learn best by reading about how something works? Is your child logical or mathematical? That is does he prefer the theoretical approach or the practical approach?

·         Does your child has an affinity towards music, dance?

·         Does your child need an environment that fosters creativity like working on handicrafts, paintings, science related projects

·         Does your child have interest in books, literature, arts?

·         Does your child prefer outdoor sports activities like judo, karate, skating, cricket, football or something else?

These are few major questions, I am sure there would be few more, which a parent can answer by introspecting his /her kid and self. That’s why it’s very important to spend time and build up the connect with your child to understand them inside out. By this you would have an idea of your child’s learning style, interest, and preferences. You can compare different schools, considering the schools particular approach to teaching & learning, and see if your kid is fitting in or not. It won’t be a wild goose chase for you as you now have an idea of how to freeze a suitable and appropriate school for your toddler. This will help you in finalizing a good first school for your kid.

 

2.  Do the right Research:

 As per you and your kid, what works the best, accordingly start making a list of schools and collecting information from various sources. Few reference sources can be, checking out the school’s website, prospectus and catalogs, open houses, online platforms, education fairs, magazines, journals or article on school rankings and performance. Gather information from different sources to have a fair idea, you can talk to parents of kids of different schools and get their reviews.

Hard work will be worth your while if you find a school that brings out the best in your child.

School curriculum, philosophy, policies and services are important aspects while choosing a school. Also check on the disciplinary model of the school, a disciplined institution helps to shape up a kid to a great extent, that’s mandate.

 Ø  Check out the school curriculum:

 Which board it has? Does it have boards such as CBSE, ICSE, State board etc.? Which one does the school teach? Does it have more than one curriculum? Till what grade is the school? If the school is you are enrolling yours kid into have only primary grades, then you have to look out for other school options for his /her secondary studies.

Rich curriculum, itself will provide you with a tremendous amount of information. The curriculum, preferably not tests oriented only. Focus on English language learning is important also.

 Ø  Academic Performance:

 You have to do the basic checks like, looking into the Ranks, trends. Ranks risen, fallen or remained flat and have to gather information for such change.

 Ø  Pay a visit to the School:

 Pay a visit to school. It will give you certain clarity and that will help you understand the functioning of school and you can get a sense of how the school runs. Try to attend a Parent   

- Teacher meeting/ open house/school function if allowed, that will provide info about conduct, behaviour and attitude of parents, school staffs & students.

Ø  Recreation Time: It’s one of most important thing to be taken care of and a mandate allotment. It refreshes mind and physical being kids as they need breaks.

Ø  After School Programme: Check if any special programs for interested kids are there like Sports club, A new language learning class, Music/Instrument class, or on academic enrichment for an all-round development of your child.

 Infrastructure & Security: It’s one of the most crucial things to focus on. Never compromise on the infrastructure and the security aspects as your kid will spend ample amount of time there and safety is most important.

Check the schools playground, its size. Have a close look at the classrooms. Are they well equipped with multiple black and white boards; projector availability is there or not. Is it Air conditioned or not, not mandatory though. You can always note on the hygiene and cleanliness of premises also. Washroom maintenance on regular interval is also a priority as it’s the place which might be a reason for health issues. School must have enough teachers and support staffs as per the student count, so that your kid will be well cared. Good teachers accelerate the rate of learning among their students.

For security, school should have an inspection team, guards, and CCTV cameras to abide by the security protocols of the system.

 

4.      Location: How far are you willing to drive your child to School? Does your child have any special transportation needs that must be considered in choosing a school?

 Location is crucial while choosing your kid’s first school. As your kid is too small, may be around 2.5 years to 3.5 years old, so choosing a school within proximity is really important so that it will be in your reach and you can be available there in no time, if needed. Schools within walking distance of your house would be a great choice.

 

5.      Efficient Teacher & Excellent Staff force:

 It’s the key. That’s the major driving force for a child to do well, develop sustainability, self-belief, and a sense of positivity, which will lay the required foundation to help them in shaping up a great career and a bright future.

 In preschool, it’s considered to be more important than any curriculum. Definitely, look for a preschool, where teachers are very engaging as it is going to be yours child first ever movement to a new place, for the first time they would be away from you, you won’t be around them, they won’t be able to see you or feel your warmth. They are going to spend a large portion of their day without their loved ones. So, that place should be visually attractive, with playing zones, creative works, constructive and educational yet interesting.

Storytelling, rhymes, musically inclined atmosphere is best for them. Your kid should have an idea that “learning is fun”. Music, dance, sports and engaging teachers and staffs must make them comfortable, so they will be lured enough to leave the house by smiling.

Quality of teachers and right ratio of student- teacher & student- support staffs is important for smooth functioning, and also needed to be checked by a parent. As a parent you have the right to ask regarding the no of teachers, specialized teacher(s), and support staffs availability to facilitator of the institution. You can also have a good look at the prospectus, which mentions the qualification, experience, trainings, achievements and background of teachers and Principal of the school.

         

 See if the staffs are responsive enough towards all the needs of the students, queries and issues are being addressed properly and how good their communication is with the parents. Are they concerned enough for your child? Teachers should be able to speak about their individual students, their strength and weakness and be well informed of their background, interest, emotional and academic achievements. It’s never appropriate for a preschool teacher to show anger, bark, humiliate, harsh with kids – They should be charming, smiling, for whom every day is a new day full of newness. As teachers, they should take pride in their students’ progress/development showing ownership, consistently open to their improvement.

Teachers should be open to explore the curious mind of kids, and never suppress their questioning mind.

 Always try to be connected to the school as much as possible, to understand the quality of education, facilities offered and if any up gradation happened recently. That would help you as a parent to help and guide your child in figuring out their need and requirements and concerns if any. You always try not to miss any Parent-Teacher meetings, that really important to check and review your kids good and bad points and do take teachers feedback positively and work on it.

Talk to other parents and students of your kid’s class to extract information about the true quality.

 Affordability: Affordability is a relative term and will depend on the ability, willingness and reach of the parent to spend on their kid’s first school. But most would like to give the best possible education to their kid even if they will have to compromise on other aspects. It’s important to understand here, it’s not necessary that the most expensive school will give your child the best education. Hence quality should be the first parameter to decide the school which has to be backed by the affordability factor.

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Integrity

That evening story - Our WE Time🌙

Today evening when me and my little one went for an evening stroll, we sat together in two adjacent chairs beside the common swimming pool, as the breeze was very pleasant, swift wind was blowing, few stars  shining and the half moon 🌝 above us made the atmosphere very serene and sweet. It's our usual routine, mostly two of us goes for that round up to sum up our day to a soulful calm one. We used to talk to each other, and to passerby known faces, Jiggy says hi and bye to all, most of them happily respond him and it's become joyous eve for little Jiggy. Gazing stars, spotting aircraft, moon, singing songs , rhymes, watching our reflection is some of our favorites after his mandatory play rides.There a lot more to it.

But today what caught my attention was something which I never expected from my 2 years old toddler to do. As there's no one near us, I slipped off mine and his mask little lower, just below the nose, just to feel comfortable. But to my utter surprise, instantly Jiggy pulled up his mask properly as proper it should be and then mine too..

I was happily surprised. Tats the true meaning of integrity. Do the right, even when no one is watching you. So much to learn from a small kid.They are the most purest.Sometimes, we preach and forgets or ignore, but it gets imprinted on their slate like mind and they follow it with all heart and sincerity. I literally thanked Jiggy that moment, both verbally and non verbally to me for that reminder lesson in disguise.. 

Felt like, there's no age to become a teacher and there's no age to stop learning..👩‍👦

A Tale of My 1st Motherhood journey

Hi to all moms who are doing great in themselves. Myself Chinmai, an Agri. Engineer, working Mom of a kid who is now 6 years old . She is super cute, very very active , smart enough, off course naughty and happening child. Super Active since toddler days.Thanks to God to bless me with a such a sweet baby. 

Before sharing my story, experience both on motherhood and as well as parenting I would like say that “ All Moms are Great “. And really it’s always a blessing from God that we become Parents sooner or later. Motherhood is such an experience that can’t be jotted down in few lines or flowery languages. It’s a Feeling, Inner Happiness, Journey starting from Day 1 of Pregnancy and never ending story ....... 

Journey ahead ......

Well soon after 3 months of my marriage suddenly I missed my monthly cycle. Still I was not able to guess the exact reason. Because due to regular field tours at Chhattisgarh, eating habits, work load, I used to miss my periods. We had just shifted from respective work places to Nagpur, also not settled down properly and i shared the problem with my husband. Soon after we both decided to visit a Gyno where in I got tested and we both were like staring at each other eyes ....... mouth wide open and Dr. asked “ Have you Not Planned ?” And she declared that You are Pregnant...... For which both of us were not prepared and scared as well that what would be the next step. 

But after a while she mentioned that I have Thyroid which started from the day of my Pregnancy and you are blessed that you are Pregnant. Because in such cases conceiving becomes an issue and many suffers . 

Guess what !!!!! I informed to my Mother and Mother-in-law and both suggested to sit back and relax and we are coming to you to take care. 

But still my journey of 9 months wasn’t smooth due to health issues. But still I was active doing household chores, going to job, no feelings of nausea neither sensitivity of smells, had food carving. These 9 months was like full of many incidents out of which I’m sharing just few with you all. 

I had applied for Govt. Irrigation Dept job for Watershed Engineer in which my CV got selected. I received the good news at the starting of my 3rd Trimester for which I was waiting since 3 years. I traveled back to Bhubaneswar with my Brother -in-law and reached home. Soon after few days I attained my exams, Interview and many more phases to get the job in which I Got Selected too 😊💃. While at Bhubaneswar I was getting checked up by another Gyno who was luckily my Aunt too Dr. Smita - she gave me a breaking news in between all these. 

YES !!! 

As I had regular pains in my abdomen I was diagnosed with Appendicitis. 

Then what ??? I had to make a choice Job OR Healthy Child. Without going for joining I stayed back home waiting for the Day 7th April of 2014.

I got admitted at hospital on 7th around 10 am and went to the OT by 1 pm. Just before the given time my Husband reached from Nagpur which was a Surprise Visit ( I was crying literally as he was not around ) and I was very happy seeing him , I got the strength and tears rolled down my eyes......, Felt like “ Yes ebe sabu bhala heba, kichi daribar nahi “. As my case was not normal Gyno suggested for C-Section. Almost after spending 1.5 hrs inside OT My Sweet Little Angel, My sweetheart, My life, My baby was with me. And I was a proud and blessed Mother rather We Became Parents . 

I came back to my senses almost after 6 hrs just for 45 mins probably and saw my child lying in the crib and crying. Was unable to hold her and feed also. 

On the next day morning I was able to hold her, look her into the very very small and tiny little eyes, feel her and I felt that “ she must be feeling happy seeing her mom and lying in her mom’s arms”. That moment it came to my mind that “ jo bhi hota hai achhe ke liye hota hai “. I was no more a kid now, I have grown out of that. 

From that very moment the journey of parenthood started. We named her Sanchita and we call her Kuku at home. Many different names by her papa, mausi, grandparents almost another 5-6 names. She is her Papa’s Laadli 🥰🥰😘” Ankhoin ka Tara” 

Parenthood journey still we both me and my husband continuing will all ups and downs, and YES everyday is a new learning for us , rather every stage of the child is different and once gone would not come back again. It’s difficult, for many many months we got sleepless night but at the end when we see her playing and giggling around - we are energized. There is no such formula of parenting:- few ideas and suggestions we get from our parents, pediatric too help, rest we learn with the child as she grows. I am lucky enough to have both my parents and parent in law’s support till now 🤞or else Kuku is lucky enough that she is getting all the grandparents love and care from beginning. 

When she was just 7 months I was back to work and my in laws looked after her. Till she was 1.9 years she was getting all pampering from her Bau (Mother) and Baba (Father). And after that till today she is being taken care by, looked after, loved , the tenderness, the warmth my daughter is getting from her Aai (Grand Ma) and Aja (Grand Pa). 🤩

I wish to talk to you and share you lot many my feelings but words are less to describe them. Motherhood and becoming parents is all God’s Grace 🙏. Motherhood journey is lovely but incomplete without a father’s love , care, support towards the child. It must be cherished till we are on this beautiful earth . 

Message for all the Mom’s and pregnant women is to enjoy the journey and indulge in each moment. And not to go through You Tube’s idea and all but get suggestions only from parents / Pediatrician. Physiological changes will not remain for ever but the joy of Motherhood will lastlong. 

Enjoy the Moment and Move on .....

Happy Motherhood and Happy Parenting 😇

Chinmai Panda Mishra  (Beautiful Mom)

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They get big.. veiny.. leaky.. and what not !! (By Dr. Akanksha Chikhlikar Aich, Specialist Breast Surgeon)

All kinds of wacky things happen to your body while it's making a baby—and your breasts, well, they are changing' big time. Here's everything you ever wanted to know about how your breasts will take shape as your pregnancy progresses.

It’s important to be aware regarding the changes in breast during and after pregnancy. This means getting to know how your breasts look and feel so you know what’s normal for you. This will help you feel more confident about noticing any unusual changes.

Dr. Akanksha Chikhlikar Aich (Specialist Breast Surgeon)

Breasts change a lot during pregnancy, so it can be difficult to notice any unusual changes at this time. If you’re unsure about any change to your breasts, talk to your specialist.

Breasts are made up of lobules (milk-producing glands) and ducts (tubes that carry milk to the nipple). These are surrounded by glandular, fibrous and fatty tissue. This tissue gives breasts their size and shape. The darker area of skin around the nipple is called the areola. On the areola there are some small raised bumps called Montgomery glands, which produce fluid to moisturise the nipple.

 They get big!!! Your belly isn't the only thing to expand during your pregnancy. From the start, the amount of fatty tissue and blood flow to your breasts increases in order to help the milk ducts and mammary glands grow. By just six weeks into pregnancy, many women's breasts have grown a full cup size or more.

 They get heavy!!! With all that increased blood flow and expanded glandular tissue, your breasts begin to swell. "Plus, your breasts and body begin to retain fluid, which is a side effect of increased progesterone and estrogen. By the ninth month of your pregnancy, the average woman has gained two pounds just in her breasts, according to the March of Dimes.

 They hurt!!!  Yes most of the times your breasts become increasingly tender. All that blood, swollen tissue, and fluid retention can leave your chest aching. In fact, sore breasts are one of the very first signs of pregnancy.

 They get veiny!!! You might notice a more prominent map of blue rivers snaking their way across your boobs as your pregnancy progresses. "Your veins are more noticeable underneath your skin because they are dilating to accommodate the increase in blood flow". Blood volume typically increases by 50% throughout pregnancy.

 They get Nipply !!! Your nipples start to take center stage, growing and becoming more defined, often sticking out more than they did before pregnancy. In addition, the areola will get larger and darker, which is a result of high-levels of estrogen.. The Montgomery glands (those small bumps dotting the areola) begin to enlarge and produce an oily substance that protects your nipples and areolas from cracking or drying out during this, uh, transformation.

 They might leak!!! In the second or third trimester, you might notice some golden-white kind of fluid leaking from your nipples. That's Colostrum the initial milk a woman produces midway through pregnancy and during the first few days after the delivery. This thick, concentrated fluid can also simply dry and crust on your nipples without much wetness. Still, some women may actually find that their breasts squirt or leak milk. "Towards the end of pregnancy, your breasts are excessively producing colostrum and milk and, sometimes, it's bound to come out," I suggest wearing breast pads if you find your boobs and your top—and bit damp.

 And They get stretch marks too!!! All that enlargement and swelling leads to your breast skin getting stretched—and that, unfortunately, can lead to stretch marks. As the skin stretches, your breasts might also start to itch.

However, current research suggests that topical treatments, such as cocoa butter and other oils specially coconut oil, do not prevent the formation of stretch mark. Research also says stretch marks and other skin changes usually fade after the birth of the baby.

Soothe the itching and keep your breast skin supple by applying a good moisturizer after showering and at bedtime, massaging with coconut oil also helps big time…..

 Yes They need your support!!!  It is prudent to invest in a supportive bra, which will help to relieve the new weight of your breasts and supporting your back. Look for one with a thick band (no underwire!) beneath the cups, wide shoulder straps, and an adjustable closure. Always go for cotton bras over synthetic ones; they're more comfortable as they allow the skin to breathe. And don't forget to keep them supported at night: A cotton sports bra, maternity bra, or a pregnancy sleep bra may make you more comfortable while you sleep.

When choosing a bra, look for one that has:

• good support
• wide straps
• adjustable closures
• no underwire
• cotton fabric composition
• seam-free design near the nipple

 AND…They will be forever changed!!! After you wean, your nipples will go back to their regular color and your breasts will return to roughly their pre-pregnancy size. But because your skin has been stretched, the loose skin and stretch marks are most likely there to stay. So instead of pining for your fingers on your big, heavy, veiny breasts, embrace this as they truly mark motherhood.

Hope these pointers will help you prepare better for the upcoming physiological changes.

I will be back with more, changes and problems in breast during and after pregnancy and lactation and how to deal with them.

How can I be a good parent ?

 

How can I be a good parent?

This is a question that is in every parent's mind. 

To nurture a life and shape him/her to a good human being is not that easy. 

We will try to find out solution for our confused mind by our own experiences with our parents, by seeing other parents and the environment around us.

Sometimes parenting comes to us naturally, when we go by our own mind, our own instincts in that particular scenario. Parenting style involves us in every possible ways like emotionally, physically, financially and even spiritually. Parenting challenges you to be a better human being, uplift morale, elevate your state of life, and expand vision and reach.

Being a perfect parent is a myth, it's actually the journey you take up to get one step closer towards your child. No one can be perfect enough but as a parent you should try to challenge yourself.

Parenting requires yours utmost effort and attention. You can develop these qualities with practice and determination. 

Be there by your child whenever you see him fail as his greatest support. Acceptance of the fact that I am not a perfect parent is the foundation for being a good parent. And that's true success in real sense !

But big question is how ?

We wonder what are the secret ingredients to make this happen. We really wonder what traits good parents have in common? 

Definition of a good parent isn't something that's fixed or a absolute.

Every parent's parenting style differ from each other. One formula gone right for a parent, doesn't mean it will go right for you as well, it may contradict too. Generally, traits doesn't fit all, it depends from person to person. But at the same time, common traits and habits can be found in parents who are practicing good parenting skills.

It may seem that Parents teach the child, but in the end, it is the other way around. Its a way to be more complete as an individual.

Lets Explore the traits:

1. Add Humor.

Humor is something which activates positive hormones in you.

It's a very healthy way of parenting, and accepted by both parents and kids lovingly.

Treating each other as friends opens up a new pathway which is accessible to both and that access increase comfort level and friendliness amongst them. By this way, they are more likely to come closer to discuss both success and failure of live, and seek suggestions which will make them calmer and much relieved.

It's no wonder why kids enjoy bringing friends home. Humor talks gives a sense of reliability and frankness, leads to reduce stress hormones and strengthen the immune system. It makes family time more fun.

2. Being flexible.

Flexible parents tend to be open minded and easy going. They have less conflicts between them.They mold as per situation, to make kids more comfortable.As parent, you can be flexible enough if you keeping multiple back up plans ready, or sometimes quite proactively going with the wind.

3. Empowerment.

Children are born with powers that define them and develop their unique strength and talent.

Good parents nurture independence, fostering personal responsibility and encouraging self reliance that would avoid laziness in their kid's life.

4. Healthy Eating habits.

For healthy body and mind, eating right is very crucial. Food should contain all nutrients, a correct combination of protein, carbs, fiber etc. Better food choices, lay foundation for health and wellness that they will carry with them. Not only good balanced diet would fill their stomach, but also would give energy. Helps in all round growth and development.

5. Patience.

It's one of the most difficult thing to do for parent, but it's important thing to inculcate in you for a smoother time with your kid. As kids, they will be little naughty, noisy or messy. But as a parent, you need to be calm and patient enough to handle them and channelize them in wonderful ways. Deep breathing, yoga does helps a lot.

6. Prioritizing. 

Parents do a lot, apart from taking care of chores, family, they go out to work. It's tedious to manage, still they do multi tasking for their own career and to raise their kid beautifully. While multitasking is considered to be a myth. Prioritizing their work helps them do more.

7. Encouraging words and action.

Kids are really vulnerable. They get affected easily to circumstances. They tend to doubt themselves, get upset, worry about other's opinion like friends and relatives.You can encourage your kid to develop a positive self esteem and become their best self.

8. Dependability.

Kids feel safe when they have reliable and dependable parents.

9. Compassion.

It's a sweetest gesture of a parent. Kids definitely need validation to keep it going. Parenting requires your utmost effort and attention towards your child. It can be developed with due course of time with sheer practice and determination.

You got to be there by your kid and enjoy the process of not being perfect, but good enough, which is often considered to be the best kind of parenting. That's true success!

10. Guide and Support, Not push & demand.

Forcing, demand is the cause of negativity in a parent-kid relationship. Instead guide and support them to face every odd situation in lives.

11. Let your child be independent

It will create a positive impact on mind growing up

12. Kids watch parents.

Parents are on constant radar of their children.You are being minutely observed and your reaction to any situation is noticed by your kids. So, it's better to do such things, which you want your kids to do or be like.

Ex- Be respectful and kind to others.

13. Express your love 

Show how much you love them on everyday basis. They will reciprocate.

14. Acknowledge your Mistakes.

It's important to acknowledge what wrong you have done and be sorry for that. 

15. Discipline effectively.

Discipline is a way of life. Its to ensure that you are raising a child who will be happier as she/he grows up. Basic attributes of disciplined kids are that they are not spoiled, ungrateful or greedy.

They develop empathy and noble in nature.

16. Developing Connection.

Connect with your child everyday. You can workout, eat and laugh together.

Going on a drive, cooking, gardening, playing ludo, watching movies are few favourites of both. Talking and listening is equally important.It's vital to give time and attention to your bonding to evolve.

A case study of more than 2000 parents, conducted by the researcher Sir Robert Epstein published in 2010 issue of "Scientific American" found that being loving and affectionate while still providing parental guidance was most important in raising happy kids.

Loving parents choose to respect, encourage and nurture their children rather than judging and blaming. They constantly affirm their love and affection, both verbally and through their behaviour as well.

By using reinforcement, they build self esteem rather than tearing it down with criticism.

Be always quick to appreciate or praise your kids.

Ex: A loving parent might say, " It's superb that you crossed that hurdle very smartly". This will motivate them to achieve more.

At the same time, if your kid fails to perform, then also cheer him up by sharing your success stories of how your failure attempt, got successful with sheer determination and hard work. This will create positive impact on your kids.

According to KidsHealth website, children who are allowed to participate in making decisions, become more motivated to carry them out.

Ex- Setting limit is good instead of denying your kid on something.

For instance, if he/she is asking for more screen time, then instead of switching off TV or saying no, you can limit that time, which will be a win-win situation.

You can teach morals in your own sweet ways. Kids learn how they see the world and behave as adults.

How moral affect others, can have great influence on them.

Example : Water conservation or usage.

Creativity : Best way to enjoy and break ice with your kid. Its fun working on a drawing sheet, handicraft etc. Creative mind makes ordinary, an extraordinary ❤️

Enjoy your happy parenting 👍