How can I be a good parent?
This is a question that is in every parent's mind.
To nurture a life and shape him/her to a good human being is not that easy.
We will try to find out solution for our confused mind by our own experiences with our parents, by seeing other parents and the environment around us.
Being a perfect parent is a myth, it's actually the journey you take up to get one step closer towards your child. No one can be perfect enough but as a parent you should try to challenge yourself.
Parenting requires yours utmost effort and attention. You can develop these qualities with practice and determination.
Be there by your child whenever you see him fail as his greatest support. Acceptance of the fact that I am not a perfect parent is the foundation for being a good parent. And that's true success in real sense !
But big question is how ?
We wonder what are the secret ingredients to make this happen. We really wonder what traits good parents have in common?
Definition of a good parent isn't something that's fixed or a absolute.
Every parent's parenting style differ from each other. One formula gone right for a parent, doesn't mean it will go right for you as well, it may contradict too. Generally, traits doesn't fit all, it depends from person to person. But at the same time, common traits and habits can be found in parents who are practicing good parenting skills.
Lets Explore the traits:
1. Add Humor.
Humor is something which activates positive hormones in you.
It's a very healthy way of parenting, and accepted by both parents and kids lovingly.
Treating each other as friends opens up a new pathway which is accessible to both and that access increase comfort level and friendliness amongst them. By this way, they are more likely to come closer to discuss both success and failure of live, and seek suggestions which will make them calmer and much relieved.
It's no wonder why kids enjoy bringing friends home. Humor talks gives a sense of reliability and frankness, leads to reduce stress hormones and strengthen the immune system. It makes family time more fun.
2. Being flexible.
Flexible parents tend to be open minded and easy going. They have less conflicts between them.They mold as per situation, to make kids more comfortable.As parent, you can be flexible enough if you keeping multiple back up plans ready, or sometimes quite proactively going with the wind.
3. Empowerment.
Children are born with powers that define them and develop their unique strength and talent.
Good parents nurture independence, fostering personal responsibility and encouraging self reliance that would avoid laziness in their kid's life.
4. Healthy Eating habits.
For healthy body and mind, eating right is very crucial. Food should contain all nutrients, a correct combination of protein, carbs, fiber etc. Better food choices, lay foundation for health and wellness that they will carry with them. Not only good balanced diet would fill their stomach, but also would give energy. Helps in all round growth and development.
5. Patience.
It's one of the most difficult thing to do for parent, but it's important thing to inculcate in you for a smoother time with your kid. As kids, they will be little naughty, noisy or messy. But as a parent, you need to be calm and patient enough to handle them and channelize them in wonderful ways. Deep breathing, yoga does helps a lot.
6. Prioritizing.
Parents do a lot, apart from taking care of chores, family, they go out to work. It's tedious to manage, still they do multi tasking for their own career and to raise their kid beautifully. While multitasking is considered to be a myth. Prioritizing their work helps them do more.
7. Encouraging words and action.
Kids are really vulnerable. They get affected easily to circumstances. They tend to doubt themselves, get upset, worry about other's opinion like friends and relatives.You can encourage your kid to develop a positive self esteem and become their best self.
8. Dependability.
Kids feel safe when they have reliable and dependable parents.
9. Compassion.
It's a sweetest gesture of a parent. Kids definitely need validation to keep it going. Parenting requires your utmost effort and attention towards your child. It can be developed with due course of time with sheer practice and determination.
You got to be there by your kid and enjoy the process of not being perfect, but good enough, which is often considered to be the best kind of parenting. That's true success!
10. Guide and Support, Not push & demand.
Forcing, demand is the cause of negativity in a parent-kid relationship. Instead guide and support them to face every odd situation in lives.
11. Let your child be independent
It will create a positive impact on mind growing up
12. Kids watch parents.
Parents are on constant radar of their children.You are being minutely observed and your reaction to any situation is noticed by your kids. So, it's better to do such things, which you want your kids to do or be like.
Ex- Be respectful and kind to others.
13. Express your love
Show how much you love them on everyday basis. They will reciprocate.
14. Acknowledge your Mistakes.
It's important to acknowledge what wrong you have done and be sorry for that.
15. Discipline effectively.
Discipline is a way of life. Its to ensure that you are raising a child who will be happier as she/he grows up. Basic attributes of disciplined kids are that they are not spoiled, ungrateful or greedy.
They develop empathy and noble in nature.
16. Developing Connection.
Connect with your child everyday. You can workout, eat and laugh together.
Going on a drive, cooking, gardening, playing ludo, watching movies are few favourites of both. Talking and listening is equally important.It's vital to give time and attention to your bonding to evolve.
A case study of more than 2000 parents, conducted by the researcher Sir Robert Epstein published in 2010 issue of "Scientific American" found that being loving and affectionate while still providing parental guidance was most important in raising happy kids.
Loving parents choose to respect, encourage and nurture their children rather than judging and blaming. They constantly affirm their love and affection, both verbally and through their behaviour as well.
By using reinforcement, they build self esteem rather than tearing it down with criticism.
Be always quick to appreciate or praise your kids.
Ex: A loving parent might say, " It's superb that you crossed that hurdle very smartly". This will motivate them to achieve more.
At the same time, if your kid fails to perform, then also cheer him up by sharing your success stories of how your failure attempt, got successful with sheer determination and hard work. This will create positive impact on your kids.
According to KidsHealth website, children who are allowed to participate in making decisions, become more motivated to carry them out.
Ex- Setting limit is good instead of denying your kid on something.
For instance, if he/she is asking for more screen time, then instead of switching off TV or saying no, you can limit that time, which will be a win-win situation.
You can teach morals in your own sweet ways. Kids learn how they see the world and behave as adults.
How moral affect others, can have great influence on them.
Example : Water conservation or usage.
Creativity : Best way to enjoy and break ice with your kid. Its fun working on a drawing sheet, handicraft etc. Creative mind makes ordinary, an extraordinary ❤️
Enjoy your happy parenting 👍
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