Working Mom CHAOS - Balancing work with a new baby

 Being committed fully to work & family undoubtedly is a tough job to do which a 

working Mom has to take on. It can be exhausting and even thankless, being perceived

as not fully present as an employee or a mother. Be confident. Focus on positive side of working.

 

Working women along with a new born baby in the house is really difficult to even imagine. It’s important to keep the sanity as it gets tedious to keep the balance of all three, i.e. self, work and new born baby. A working woman would have already imagined the future chaos that is coming when she will join work, finishing her maternity leaves.

There are many thoughts goes on a working woman’s mind like fear of spending less time with baby. And whether baby will recognize her after she comes back, how will be their love bonding. Would the baby love her or not? Why the baby does not like their favorite teddy/toy now which they were always attached to? Is her baby safe back at home? Whether baby is having food on time or not? Is baby’s growth and development is proper, both height and weight? Is the baby is able express his /her mind properly? Why the baby is not happy seeing Mom back from office? Would the baby ever recognize her efforts which she puts in for her family by going to work, and not being with her child?

All these runs on a working mother’s mind at umber speed. There are numerous doubts, questions and confusion as she is not physically present with her kid and it matters high time to her as nothing is more precious in her life than her baby. And there is always guilt of not spending enough time and leaving baby at home.

Going back to work for a new mom is definitely very challenging as she is going through a lot of physical as well as mental changes. There is inflow of mixed emotions which makes her quite vulnerable. But with calmness, persistence, determination and with proper planning she can resume her work with confidence and dignity. There are certain ways where working woman can maintain the perfect balance between her baby and her work with ease.

The following tips are a must do for a working woman is planning to join work:

  Maintain an Organizer/Calendar: It’s not easy to remember everything. So, it’s important to have important details/dates added in the calendar to remind you or help you immediately when you need them urgently. You can set reminders for your baby’s vaccination dates also. Put on the calendar, the roles of responsible people related to your baby, the role of everyone to be recorded to make your job hassle free and you can easily pass the same to your nanny or any family member who is taking care in your absence.

 Sharing Work: Sharing your work, so that everything will be as planned and without any delays. It is noticed that when you divide your work, the work is done perfectly and on time. And the best part is you will get little relaxed on that front. But to execute this, you need to plan it perfectly, hand hold the same and ensure that your work is being properly without any problem. You can share your work with your partner or with any of your family member whom you can trust.

 Proper Communication: Safety & Well-being is the most important thing related to your baby. It also helps in taking care of each and every need and requirements of your baby, even if you are not there physically available. This will ensure yours peace of mind and you can concentrate on yours official work.

 

Before leaving your baby at home, you need to communicate with the person who will take the responsibility, be it your partner, family member, day care teachers or even nanny. Proper & effective communication do help in tracking yours baby’s development, you won’t miss any of the baby’s milestones.

 

4.       Baby sitter/Nanny back up: It’s important to keep back up ready so that yours daily routine won’t get disturbed.

 

5.       Perks of Pre planning: This will make yours mornings easy as per plan. No fumbling. No hassles. It’s wise to do some things the night before, to ease out things in the next morning. Keep baby’s stuffs sorted at one place. Prepare notes of Baby food with timings, and keep all requisites at one place or mention regarding their whereabouts to make the work easier. Take out your babies clothes from wardrobe to save your time and make the following day smoother and easy to go.

 

6.       Support at Work: You can seek support from your reporting manager/ HR for a flexible schedule whenever needed. Check if work from home option is there or can be availed when required. Check and be informed on leave policies in case of sick children.

 

7.       Outsource work at Home: Ensure your house to be well taken care by maid and hygiene is maintained. Check you have help/support to take care of your household’s grocery needs and other daily requirements.

 

Ways to take care of yours Physical & Mental health

 

It is immensely important to take care of yourself. Being a working mom, you need to take care of your kid, take care of work commitment and most importantly yourself.

 

 For this, there are few things to be kept in mind:

·         Know when to switch: It’s important to switch from one to other, like from work mode to home mode or vice versa. This would help big time in balancing your life and important for a happy mind too.

 

·         Be focused: Staying focused will help you in being efficient & productive at both work place and at your home.

 

·         Things to do: Everyday, make a note of things to do in the morning. Best way to complete your job efficiently and on right time.

 

·         Spend good times with your little one: Snuggle and cuddle with your baby and have an awesome family time.

Pleasure of working Mom can be various types. You can have an amazing bonding while feeding your little one. Bathing time is a fun filled time for baby. You can be around and feel the happy vibes. Massaging is can have a beautiful we time for both Mom and Baby. Making a craft, painting together is a fabulous idea too.

 

·         Coffee dates with fellow Mom friends: Join Mom’s groups build connection and plan hang outs and baby’s play dates to be little relaxed and chilled out.

 

·         Exercise & Yoga: To live in the moment & in a happy space, it’s important to feel good and healthy. Exercise and yoga is the best thing to practice. You can join a yoga centre, or on hang in on to You Tube to keep yourself fit and fine, it also boost up yours senses, and improve your concentration level.

             

                                                            Let go off the Mom guilt.

                                                               Working Moms rock!

 

 Amrita Priyadarshini (Entrepreneur & Mom)

Discipline your Toddler the Right Way

Discipline is a way of life. It’s management of our behaviour. Discipline is one of the ways of teaching your toddler kid to follow certain life rules which leads to follow a particular code of conduct and be systematic in life. Good mannerism, humble behaviour and conduct are few positive outcomes of discipline in kids, which helps them in preventing behavioural issues in future.

Discipline is a great way to impart knowledge and skills by the process of teaching. It’s well taught at home by parents, and then they learn from their teachers at school.

Parents must understand that there’s a thin line between loving and pampering. It’s an important trait, which to be taken care of, and lovingly nurtured.

As a parent, there are several questions that pop up in our minds like:

How to teach self-control/discipline? Do kids require a particular set of rules to abide by? Is there any method a child should learn, what are the lines which are not to be crossed, where to stop and when? Why kids throw tantrums, and how to deal with it?

Toddlerhood in particular, is the age in which kids try to be independent and loves to discover themselves as individuals, but at the same time, they still have a limited ability to communicate. Toddlers do imitate their parents or people around them and they literally wait to check for their reactions of their deeds, and look out for validations. By doing this, your kid will learn few new things and unlearn few. That will get imprinted in their curious little minds, that helps in asserting themselves to a greater extent.

The disciplinary action for different age group is different. Setting up disciplinary consequence is crucial but at the same time, discipline with love and caution, otherwise it may backfire.

As per experts, use of Time Out, Rewards & Co-counselling techniques can be used effectively in achieving the desired goals.

 

Why Indiscipline:

• Fear give rise to Indiscipline
• Sense of insecurity or unsafe feel
• Family disturbance or bad behaviour
• Bullying by peers
• The inability to express themselves
• Excessive pampering
• Lack of involvement of parents

 

Important techniques to teach discipline to your kids:

 ·         Set an example : As you ask your baby to do something, and you yourself not practicing the same, it doesn’t makes any sense. You need to do it yourself first, to help your kid understand it in a better way and then they tend to sink in into it. A parent is always been the torch bearer, who will lead from the front, paving way for the kid, which motivates kids to understand and perform it.

·         Be a good listener: Being a good listener to your kids, will do absolute wonders for both. Kids need undivided attention. Listening to them will help them open up in front of you.

 

·         Never say no to your kids: Instantly saying no to anything or everything to them might distant the relationship and affect the bonding. Also might irate and disturb them big time, which will lead to disagreement in them.

 

·         Ask for help: Asking your kid to help you in your work is no bad. This will make them feel important and would help in long run. For example, you can involve your kids in sorting their own toys after play.

 

·         Know when to end discussions: At times kids do show tantrums. While conversing or interacting, it’s important to cut it short, and to know when to stop the topic or divert it to something else. For example, at home if your kid wishes to play with a certain object which is really sharp and can hurt them. And they are in no mood to detach it from them, at that moment either you as a parent have to be a very good storyteller to divert their mind from that object to other things or you can give them something else to hold, which is safe for them.

 

·         Be Empathetic: Be like a kid, with a kid. Magic mantra to be at a win –win situation. Don’t you feel so? No kid is arrogant, anguish, intolerant without any reason. There must be a reason. As a parent you need to figure it out by being getting into their shoes. Try to connect emotionally with your kid as he might not able to express them completely, and that probably be the reason to show tantrums or being indiscipline. It’s very important to understand their mind, and what they want to tell or communicate with you, may be with their expressions or by their behaviour. Instead of angering or losing it on them, which seem difficult for a parent to hold, but being matured from kids, you need to be patient and hearing. Never react to kids negatively. It might have an adverse effect.

 

·         Be Respectful: Show respect to your kids. They will learn from your behaviour towards them and accordingly reciprocate. As parent, you lead, but at the same time not authoritative to them. Best way is take them along, to make feel closer to you and accepted. Give them a choice, which will show that you respect your toddler and recognize their feelings.

 

·          Punishment to kids is a strict no-no scenario.

 

·         Develop Self Control: Kids focus on one thing at a time, their mind processing is not as developed like an adult’s. They take little more time to process. That is why; change of their mind-set is not easy. Their logical quotient is not much developed, so self-realization is less. Mostly children lack impulse control at their initial ages. Self-control grip in them comes gradually, with the development of pre frontal cortex, and it increases with age. With time and age, your kid will develop better sense of reasoning, logic, judgement and focus too. To increase their impulse control system, you can buy Toys with impulse control, which will help them to understand and reactive to it. For instance, Ex – Traffic Signal. The traffic post with Red, Green, Yellow signals will help them to depict when to stop, when to get ready and when finally to move. This will surely strengthen their Impulse Control System.

 

·         Create a happy place/Safe zone: It’s important to make them feel safe and secured. If your kid is happy, then undoubtedly they will focus, take interest, learn, be creative, try to make decisions, choose, become smarter and in this process learn more and better.

In Anxiety / Stress zone, kids in this zone don’t feel safe, secure, wanted and loved. This is not the zone for your precious one.

 

·         Appreciate: Appreciate them for everything good they do. That will encourage them to keep doing good things, as they now know which all things are being appreciated. So, for doing good practices, kids got to be disciplined, which they will become eventually practicing.

Please note, at the same time its mandatory to correct their bad behaviour.

 

·         How to Behave?

No doubt, this will take time but it’s needed to shape up your toddler kid’s future. Help your kid learn the effective and healthy discipline strategies.

 

·         Help them Explore: All kids want to explore the world. Especially the toddlers, who have just recently got super active, out from their shell. But also figure out what all are safe for them and what all are unsafe. Speak to them and make them understand.

Example: No touch (Fire), Hot touch (Hot milk), Cold touch (Ice-cream) etc.

 

·         Set limits: It’s crucial to set limits to discipline your kid. This will also help them self-control. You can also set boundaries for them by keeping things out of their reach for a while.

For Instance, watching TV, it’s advisable to parents to set time limit for their kids while they watch their favorite series. Both will be equally happy.

 

·         Be Consistent: Consistency will build up a routine life, and that’s the essence of a disciplined life. Right time for taking nap, food, bathe, brush, stroll, and play makes a kid accustomed to daily routine life.

 

·         Avoid Stressful Situations: Avoid disturbing state of your kid. For example, do travelling to places as per their convenience. If they have vomiting tendencies or if get uneasy during traveling, then avoid such long distance travel with your kid, at least till the age they overcome it.

Another instance, please do take care of your kid when they feel or sleepy especially when you are out of home. It’s advisable to bring them to home as soon as possible to make them comfortable.

 

·         TIME OUT: You must have heard this terminology “Time Out” a lot of times. It’s a way to give your toddler baby a break of a minute or two, not more than that. This is to calm them and get themselves back in control.

Never choose a dark, secluded place; instead you can create a cosy place where they will be safe. This will create a positive impact on them, as they know, they are not appreciated for the act, for which they are here.

 

Perks of being a Disciplined Toddler

 

·         Self-Control & Increased focus

·         Good Behaviour & Mannerism

·         Empathetic towards others

·         Becomes expressive and communicate properly

·         Teaches them to accept instructions

·         Give respect to Authority

·         Became accountable

·         Finally a happy and loving kid

Amrita Priyadarshini (Mom of a super active Toddler & Entrepreneur)

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Is your Kid getting Bullied?

Thinking of your kid being bullied? That would be a nightmare!!

It runs chills, heart skips a bit, disturbing thoughts crosses our mind, when we even think of our little one being bullied. The day your child moves out of house, for education, or for any other activity, that would be beyond your control. Your kids mind is like white paper, whatever good or bad, gets imprinted on them very easily and that may impact their mind in long run.

A parent’s heart gets pierced completely when they see their kids getting bullied or victimized, without any fault of theirs. As a parent, to solve the problem, it’s crucial to know the problem to understand the whole cause and the way out to help your child.

Who are Bullies? How bullies are born? Are they really born bully or they are raised? Why they bully? Why older kids bully or target younger or vulnerable kids? Are they themselves got bullied in their childhood? What is its impact on your kids mind and health? 

All these questions even raise further more questions. A learned behavior that is used in response to stress is an attempt to gain superiority or control/bossism over another.

Most often manifested in empty classrooms, washrooms, or on the play grounds.

Low self-esteem is one of the prime reason, which ignites them, turning to bullies. Pattern is repeatedly/deliberately humiliating- who are smaller, weaker, younger or more vulnerable than the bully. Include verbal/nonverbal attacks precisely.

The Stimuli’s:

1.       Home Atmosphere: As per studies, the problem take its root most often at home.

It has major impact on the child’s mind; this impact is on both the bully as well as the victim. Aggressive or brutal behavior of family members can creates a negative feel for the kid. The Bully’s behavior somehow being able to capture a major portion of the victim’s brain. One of the most important facts is that a family’s interactions within themselves and with the child have a major or definite bearing on how your child will react or interact with his peers or with the ones he/she comes in contact with.

2.       Excessive Protectiveness:

It’s one of the encouraging factors which are detrimental to a child. Unknowingly as a parent, the over protectiveness gestures makes the child more vulnerable. They get exposed to the possibility of being attacked or harmed, either physically or emotionally. They are not able to see, feel, react to things around them, as they are not allowed to do it. This hinders their interpersonal skills to a greater extent, and their capabilities are shadowed. Interpersonal skills as in, the ability to initiate talks with peers, elders.

3.       Comparison Syndrome:

It is one of the major stimuli’s which triggers. Nobody likes to get compared. Not even          us. Isn’t it? It brings in jealousy, hatred, anguish and what not. Parents, relatives doing          comparison with other’s son or daughter are the major instigator. It’s mostly noticed              parents intentionally or sometimes unknowingly compares their children with those of          others in their social circles or with their peers at schools/colleges. By doing this parents        do more bad, rather than doing good to their kids. It creates havoc in their lives. Kids            feels left out, alone, rejected, which results in their low self-esteem and ultimately they          start questioning themselves, doubting their own potential.

For every kid, their parents are everything, means everything to them. Their little world starts and ends with them. They are their pillars and ultimate resort. Without their support, child feels hopeless and depressed. So, that comparison, done by the parent, surely shakes up the child quite a lot. Kids are not matured enough to understand or decode the intensions of their parents, which may be done to motivate their kids.

 It’s advisable to never look at a child with disgrace and never ever humiliate them about their performance in anything. Rather always motivate them to come over and try again. 

Expert says, the mark sheets and other reports too put impact on the emotional and mental strain because of grade comparison.

Once or in few occasions if your child is continuously getting hurt, fearful, then there are chances he/she would prefer to be in their cocoon and become less interactive or interested to open up or show up their skills & talent, that will hinder their mental & physical being to a great extent.

4.       Past Memory /Incident: A boy/girl becomes a bully, may be they have faced the same during their early years and impacted them quite a lot that they do this to others in a revengeful manner. Another possibility may be, parents past could play a part in the child’s tendency to develop himself or herself into either a bully or a victim. Parents who been humiliated in their growing years, they tend to humiliate their own children and as they have got bullied themselves, they could be likely to be giving bad advices to their child. Bad advices as in to do the same with other kids, so that would heal them eventually. For instance, bad words like ‘go fight back’, ‘don’t be weak’, ‘you are no less’, ‘be a strong boy’ etc.

HEALERS : The healing techniques can be sharing instances from your own real life which your baby can correlate and connect well, getting life lessons. 

For Instance, telling your child your own struggle turned success story, that while you tried participating in Sports, some students mocked at you by saying, yours physical appearance doesn’t seem to be great, you look too weak to qualify even for the activity. Explain your kid, how you took that challenge very sportingly and positively, worked on it, performed your best and stood as a Champion.

Citing these instances will surely change your kids perspective towards the whole thing, boost their morale high and fill them up with a lot of self-confidence.

Sharing: Sharing is caring. By sharing in a way, you as a parent have been able to breeze the gap, quiet amazingly. Sharing is an important tool for a parent-child bonding. The best way a parent can help their kid to share their feelings, express themselves, putting forward their concerns, constraints.

Developing emotional bond : Developing emotional bond with your little one, at toddler level too will become the base, the much needed foundation for a healthy relationship, which will be like a proper frame work to his well-being as he/she grows up to be a gentleman/gentlewoman.

Read their unspoken words: Victims, or kids who have faced this, are terrified to a greater extent, because of whole incidence that has happened. If your kid is not comfortable in confronting or addressing this issue and prefers to remain silent, then there is a definite problem. Kids tends to react weirdly to certain circumstances like they may do bedwetting, getting annoyed/upset easily, no interest in attending school, self-cornering, irritation, lack of interest in doing anything, fearfulness etc. are some of the warning signals that shouldn’t be ignored.

Create happy Days: Break the ice! Surprise your baby by bringing his/her friends to home for play dates. That would help them in socializing.

Be alert and caring as a parent.

Fun Outing: Arrange fun outing for your baby. Outing, treks, visit to park, amusement places, picnics, outdoor playtime brings out the best in your kid. They socialize, mix, help, learn, and protect themselves by facing good or bad.

Common Symptoms:

Immature Social Skills: They lack social skills, prefer to be in their own zone. Like to stay aloof.

Lack of empathy or compassion: The feeling of empathy or compassion is not there in them. The bullies, without any hesitation harm the victim verbally or physically. They cannot feel the pain one would go through, so that’s make it easy for them to perform bad with others. Bullies find difficulty in understanding other feelings, unable to decode situations, so no empathy.

Poor impulse control:  They lack impulse control, it’s very poor.

Aggressive Channels: They like watching more aggressive, violent TV shows or Video games or content on TV or phone. That boost their energy to do more of bullying.

Quick Highlights: The R & R Tips

Reason & Relationship Building

Definite Reason behind bullying:

1-      Strained Parental Relationship

2-      Pressure from parents to win at any condition, Highly competitive mind-set

3-      Discipline Issues

4-      Stress of poor academic performances

5-      Unsupportive

6-      Physical abuse by Parents

7-      Victim of Bullies

 Tips for building Relationship:

Our children, may not succeed, fail, take poor choices, still be there to support and help them to stand and rebuild themselves.

      1.       Praise : Small or big, feel good everyday (as plants, need to be nurtured every day)

2.       Listen when they need to be heard

3.       Help them problem solve

4.       Avoid comparisons

5.       Teach Empathy

6.       Enjoy Special Occasions

7.       Talk often, even if they are not listening

8.       Decrease or stop violent content on TV/Phone

Best ways to deal with bullies: Googly for the Bullies!

1.       Walk away from them, stay positive, be confident, make friends

2.       Get help.

3.       As a parent look for signs: Less feel to socialize, hyper sensitive on specific topics, walk changes, hands in pockets, not feel like dressing up, self conscious, what others will think etc.

 Both Bully & victim need counselling, rather than punishment.

 Please read, share with other parents to spread this awareness and to help the future generation stay and stand strong.

 

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Ways to comfort yours first born for a new sibling

Yay! Congratulations! 

The family is pregnant!

Off course it’s the biggest news for the entire family. Happiness knows no bound. Heart is growing bigger and merrier all around the house. 

More noise, more toys, some more shopping, happy cuddling and snuggling now.

It’s no surprise that the news of arrival of a new baby member can bring many changes to a family. By then there must be a set routine life for all existing members, but with this little value addition, the dynamics will change.

Sibling relationship is special and unique. Bonding between siblings comes naturally in most cases, but it is something that needs to be channelized and guided whenever it is needed.

Kid waiting for his Brother/Sister

These things encourage siblings to connect, live, learn, love and grow with each other. It’s important to feel togetherness and part of the same home team.

Parents will spend a lot of energy in preparations before and after home coming of the little baby. Much of the parent’s attention involves caring of the new born. Obviously the time given to the older sibling will get lessened to an extent. All this change would be hard for the older sibling to handle. It’s usual for them to get jealous towards the new born and behave in certain unusual ways.

New sibling can have an impact on your family. Understand and plan how to prepare your older child, introduce the new born baby and encourage a healthy sibling bond. Bringing home the second baby to home will be little different the second time around.

But no worries, it can be well handled. You can prepare yourself mentally, before preparing your older sibling for a happy extension of the family.

Little Baby with his Sister

Important Tips to handle the chaos:

New baby brings and challenges at the same time. Surely, you are excited but at the same time damn nervous to handle the same situation all over again. Undoubtedly, it’s the most amazing thing ever happened to you, but still it bring in a lot of side effects also.

One of the major hurdles is how your older baby will react and act seeing his new born sibling.

1.  Sharing the news:  Get the story teller out of you. Make the entire news easy for them to swallow with a smile on face. Remind him/her that he/she was a beautiful baby once, too.

2.  Involve: It’s very wise to involve your older sibling, take their advice or opinion. This will make them feel wanted and loved. Right from choosing their bedding, toys, pillows, cot and even clothes.

Involve your family and closed ones to mix more and take more time for your older kid so that he won’t feel left out or ignored.

Tell your older child to hold the baby first, before anyone else, will develop a sense of responsibility and belonging feeling towards their new born sibling.

 Introduce your baby to the new born with happy vibe and positive frame of mind.

 Never fail to praise for every single gesture of your older kid towards his/her newly born brother/sister.

Get their help in feeding finger food to their little brother/sister; entertain them by singing, caricature, dance etc. during diaper change or making them eat. Can also get their help in pushing carriage/stroller, talk to baby while dressing up, bathe, or burp the baby. It’s do help in making the tough work an easy thing to do.

Ask to open baby gifts, ways to take care of little one, take pictures etc. and encourage them while doing it.

Expect a little moodiness: Perfectly Normal!

 

Happy Family

4.   Listen Carefully: Be a good listener, rather being impatient.

Try to calm him down, and not impose, knowing anyway the older one have to adjust. Be a little empathetic to your older baby as it’s new for him and difficult to deal with.

If your child expresses no interest in the baby, don’t be alarmed and don’t force it. It can take time, and it’s quite obvious to go through this.

Prepare and more prepare: Practice will make this easier for your older sibling and subsequently your peace of mind is intact.

·         Let your child hear you talk about the “new baby” and feel your happiness and excitement. They will get as excited as you all are, as they have the tendencies to copy and replicate the same reactions.

·         Show pictures of family, with the new born also. That will create an idea that you all are a single family.

·         Also frequently remind your older sibling is that the new born is your Brother/Sister. It ensures their acceptance for the new one.

·         Teach soft touches. “No hitting, time out”. It not at all a punishment, but way to help him learn that the act done is not appropriate, and it’s not permissible.

 

Happy Family

6.       Age wise reactions: Children of different ages will react differently to a new baby. Knowing what to expect from each age group will make it easier to handle the changes in your family.

 ·         Toddlers – Age 1 to 2 years, usually doesn’t understand. So, it’s easier to handle them.

·         Pre-schooler’s – Age 2 to 4 years, these age child are generally very sensitive. They are so emotional and possessive for their parents, which they get uncomfortable very easily. In fact they might get scared by the news also. You as a parent, try to comfort them by speaking and spending quality time with them. When the new baby arrives, try to do something special for your older child. You can always surprise them with their favourite toy. You can take them to their favourite muffin/ice cream parlour. Take them to the nearby zoo or water park to have fun time. Watching a good children movie is not a bad idea either. It will surely make things easy for both of you.

·         5 Years Above – As they have developed bit of understanding, it’s advisable to discuss all the aspect, both good and bad.

 

7.       Hand holding the Older Child: Its important as it will make yours work lesser or peaceful.  For example;

 ·         Toilet training to older kid:  Your older child won’t be dependent on you to help him/her out for cleaning of his /her poop.

·         Weaning off: Weaning off from breast feeding is better as you have to feed your new born.

·         Showing them Wardrobe : It’s important to show them which clothes or accessories are kept where, so they can take it out themselves and won’t be searching out for you or calling you loud to get their things done.

·         Calm them: Prepare your children before going to hospital, say them that, you will right back to them in no time. This will surely make them happy. Try to do things, by keeping your older baby close to you.

Happy Family

Setting special Time: It’s important to take out special time for the older child. Helping them in studies, playing games, singing or dancing, going on strolls are amongst the few.

Enrollment: Enroll in a hospital sibling class designed for children and parents to learn together. It definitely helps in understanding and ways to go about it.They guide how to act in a particular situation, to make things look easier. Develops sibling bond as well.

Be Supportive: Acknowledge your child’s unspoken feelings. When your child knows that, you understand his/her feelings, they’ll have less need to act up to get your attention. Don’t say no to their wish immediately, instead reply back by mentioning, “My hand are busy now, we will do this after few minutes”.

If you can share few more techniques, please write in comment box below.