Hello everyone, My name is Dr. Deepali Srivastava & I would like to share, my experience of motherhood.
Before I present my story, I would like to state that that every woman is amazing in herself. Every Female in this world, throughout her life, keeps on playing a way more crucial role, from supporting herself, to supporting her family, and that too without any extended aspirations and sometimes on the cost of it.
It
is one of a lifetime achievement, which we all deserve.
Being a newly married couple with a reproductive problem invited everyone’s consideration of whether, I would be able to conceive…??
Even
My gynecologist, our family members, everyone around the corner advised me to
conceive as soon as I can, because I was running on a Ovarian clock, which created
an immense pressure on both of us for which we both weren't ready. Because It had
been only few months to our marriage, and we wanted to enjoy every smallest bit
that we could. We wanted to
explore new places, enjoy the scenic beauties, everything what we have dreamt, pre-marriage
but now it's seems like our fairy world of adventure was compromised for
Responsibility of a Child, which we both were not equipped for.
2
months after my operation, I conceived. It was a shock to us but as we all were
worried and our family gynecologist advised, we decided to move ahead.
We
started with regular appointments to the local known gynecologist, and
everything was smooth. We also started practicing our life with a baby (keeping
all those natal needs in consideration, the husband was cornered on the bed and
I had proclaimed myself queen). Things were fine until the day when in one of
the regular USG we found that our baby's heartbeat was less than usual.
My heart sank when I heard the doctor's saying that "heart beat is not at all proper, it’s very very low". Although I didn't understand completely, what he meant, but something was wrong for sure. He advised me to take proper rest and told me that I might have a miscarriage.
We
went home, without saying a word to each other and the same night, I went
through severe miscarriage. It was way painful and I pray it shouldn’t happen
to anyone, as I was too weak to carry a child, post my severe operation of
Ovarian Cyst, but you all can understand the pressure on a women she can be in.
I took the chance and lost myself in that moment forever.
Well,
After that we decided to give ourselves time, to establish our bond stronger
and not to go by the rules of society.”
My motherhood My choice “I will conceive, whenever I am mentally,
financially and physically prepared to bear the responsibility of a child of my
own or even adopted one, coz my love for a child was not related to blood
listing.
Leaving all the negativity behind, I focused on my Studies, completed my post-graduation and stood up as a more confident, social and positive person.
After
4 Years of marriage, when we didn’t even planned a baby but god surprised us with
a full-term delivery of a cute little healthy girl child.
Now it's been almost a year and my Moon pie is about to turn 1 and I can say that even though last year had its share of difficult times, yet it was the most wonderful and the most beautiful year of my life.
Watching your child growing from a fetus to a person is a great journey, establishing contact with him/her through touches and noises, his/her expressions, aggression and happiness, always creates a new world for you. A fetus who was just a cell, witnessing it walking on his/her feet is a journey which is not explainable in any language at all.
Well in the end, I want to establish that though motherhood sure is one of the most beautiful phases of every woman's life, but one should go for it only when she is fully prepared for it and not just because of society's pressure or age constraint.
Stay positive, Motherhood is an
amazing experience but being a women itself makes you damn remarkable
Wow..very beautifully written..you went through a lot...but now you are a mom...all the best..enjoy motherhood...
ReplyDeleteWonderful you are an inspiration ;
ReplyDeleteWonderful you are an inspiration and your story will motivate many couples who are wainting for their bundle of happiness
ReplyDeleteDeepali..you are an amazingly strong woman! An inspiration to many. Proud of you!!!
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