A Tale of My 1st Motherhood journey

Hi to all moms who are doing great in themselves. Myself Chinmai, an Agri. Engineer, working Mom of a kid who is now 6 years old . She is super cute, very very active , smart enough, off course naughty and happening child. Super Active since toddler days.Thanks to God to bless me with a such a sweet baby. 

Before sharing my story, experience both on motherhood and as well as parenting I would like say that “ All Moms are Great “. And really it’s always a blessing from God that we become Parents sooner or later. Motherhood is such an experience that can’t be jotted down in few lines or flowery languages. It’s a Feeling, Inner Happiness, Journey starting from Day 1 of Pregnancy and never ending story ....... 

Journey ahead ......

Well soon after 3 months of my marriage suddenly I missed my monthly cycle. Still I was not able to guess the exact reason. Because due to regular field tours at Chhattisgarh, eating habits, work load, I used to miss my periods. We had just shifted from respective work places to Nagpur, also not settled down properly and i shared the problem with my husband. Soon after we both decided to visit a Gyno where in I got tested and we both were like staring at each other eyes ....... mouth wide open and Dr. asked “ Have you Not Planned ?” And she declared that You are Pregnant...... For which both of us were not prepared and scared as well that what would be the next step. 

But after a while she mentioned that I have Thyroid which started from the day of my Pregnancy and you are blessed that you are Pregnant. Because in such cases conceiving becomes an issue and many suffers . 

Guess what !!!!! I informed to my Mother and Mother-in-law and both suggested to sit back and relax and we are coming to you to take care. 

But still my journey of 9 months wasn’t smooth due to health issues. But still I was active doing household chores, going to job, no feelings of nausea neither sensitivity of smells, had food carving. These 9 months was like full of many incidents out of which I’m sharing just few with you all. 

I had applied for Govt. Irrigation Dept job for Watershed Engineer in which my CV got selected. I received the good news at the starting of my 3rd Trimester for which I was waiting since 3 years. I traveled back to Bhubaneswar with my Brother -in-law and reached home. Soon after few days I attained my exams, Interview and many more phases to get the job in which I Got Selected too 😊💃. While at Bhubaneswar I was getting checked up by another Gyno who was luckily my Aunt too Dr. Smita - she gave me a breaking news in between all these. 

YES !!! 

As I had regular pains in my abdomen I was diagnosed with Appendicitis. 

Then what ??? I had to make a choice Job OR Healthy Child. Without going for joining I stayed back home waiting for the Day 7th April of 2014.

I got admitted at hospital on 7th around 10 am and went to the OT by 1 pm. Just before the given time my Husband reached from Nagpur which was a Surprise Visit ( I was crying literally as he was not around ) and I was very happy seeing him , I got the strength and tears rolled down my eyes......, Felt like “ Yes ebe sabu bhala heba, kichi daribar nahi “. As my case was not normal Gyno suggested for C-Section. Almost after spending 1.5 hrs inside OT My Sweet Little Angel, My sweetheart, My life, My baby was with me. And I was a proud and blessed Mother rather We Became Parents . 

I came back to my senses almost after 6 hrs just for 45 mins probably and saw my child lying in the crib and crying. Was unable to hold her and feed also. 

On the next day morning I was able to hold her, look her into the very very small and tiny little eyes, feel her and I felt that “ she must be feeling happy seeing her mom and lying in her mom’s arms”. That moment it came to my mind that “ jo bhi hota hai achhe ke liye hota hai “. I was no more a kid now, I have grown out of that. 

From that very moment the journey of parenthood started. We named her Sanchita and we call her Kuku at home. Many different names by her papa, mausi, grandparents almost another 5-6 names. She is her Papa’s Laadli 🥰🥰😘” Ankhoin ka Tara” 

Parenthood journey still we both me and my husband continuing will all ups and downs, and YES everyday is a new learning for us , rather every stage of the child is different and once gone would not come back again. It’s difficult, for many many months we got sleepless night but at the end when we see her playing and giggling around - we are energized. There is no such formula of parenting:- few ideas and suggestions we get from our parents, pediatric too help, rest we learn with the child as she grows. I am lucky enough to have both my parents and parent in law’s support till now 🤞or else Kuku is lucky enough that she is getting all the grandparents love and care from beginning. 

When she was just 7 months I was back to work and my in laws looked after her. Till she was 1.9 years she was getting all pampering from her Bau (Mother) and Baba (Father). And after that till today she is being taken care by, looked after, loved , the tenderness, the warmth my daughter is getting from her Aai (Grand Ma) and Aja (Grand Pa). 🤩

I wish to talk to you and share you lot many my feelings but words are less to describe them. Motherhood and becoming parents is all God’s Grace 🙏. Motherhood journey is lovely but incomplete without a father’s love , care, support towards the child. It must be cherished till we are on this beautiful earth . 

Message for all the Mom’s and pregnant women is to enjoy the journey and indulge in each moment. And not to go through You Tube’s idea and all but get suggestions only from parents / Pediatrician. Physiological changes will not remain for ever but the joy of Motherhood will lastlong. 

Enjoy the Moment and Move on .....

Happy Motherhood and Happy Parenting 😇

Chinmai Panda Mishra  (Beautiful Mom)

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